MATURE ANSWER ON MOVING ON EVEN THOUGH YOU ARE IN LOVE?
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i was only not long ago bail out by my gf who is in the uk and im in australia.
we have been together for nineteen months and it came all of the sudden.
and we have been both 18
it was similar to dual days prior to she pennyless up with me she was still observant i love you, i skip you and cant wait for for to see you in december.
then she told me she wants to be free. she isnt saying an additional guy, but wants to get out of the dating stage and suffer the uni life.
she was harsh,acting similar to i was a foreigner to her whilst interesting others regularly.
im still in love with her and i havent been sleeping well with all the crying. i told her to wait for for until i see her again subsequent month but she told me theres no point since she has no feelings for me..
i know i should move on, but how? it unequivocally is difficult. she is still my love, my initial infact.
do assistance me out…
should i try to win her back? i unequivocally do love her and i instruct she had since us a chance..
we disagree once in a whilst but zero major…
the thing is… i unequivocally dont think she is saying any one else and yes i determine the weird. i unequivocally dont know. the subject is, how do i move on if i still have feelings for her?
9 Comments
October 5th, 2009 at 8:28 pm
For crying out loud…
October 7th, 2009 at 10:55 pm
It doesnt make any sense to go from one day saying I love you to breaking up all together. If you ask me she met someone else, and shes young, as are you, you kids have no idea what it is you want.
My advice is to let it be and move on, there will be plenty of girls that will come in and out of your life in the comming years. Learn from each relationship, by the time your 30, if youve been f$%#ed around enough, you will be able to see people for who they really are and be in a better position to appreciate a women. Have fun, practice safe sex and be a kid, your time is running out.
October 10th, 2009 at 3:41 am
find a chick in your Town…move on she Sounds like a bitch and u can do better
October 10th, 2009 at 11:07 am
No I don't think your going to be able to win her back, I think that she was forcing herself to love you, and I think maybe she wants a closer kind of relationship and she knows you can never give her that. You just need to to forget about her a little bit at a time, you will never completely forget about her so don't even try.
Just try to move on, get any feelings you have for her out, and just basically send her and e-mail or something and just get some closure on how you feel and then just try to move on…
I wish you well
October 12th, 2009 at 10:40 pm
Sadly this will not be an easy process. I've been in a very similar situation and let me tell you that you need to move on. It will be difficult and somewhere in your heart there will probably always be a spot for her. Time DOESN'T heal all wounds. But you are only 18, you still have your entire life and with 3+ Billion other women on this planet, I GUARANTEE you will find someone else. Just keep going on with your life, date other women, and eventually the pain will dull until you hardly ever think of her again.
You can try getting back together with her, but personally I don't recommend it. If she doesn't have feelings for you anymore then you can't change that (life would be much easier if you could). The best thing to do is yes, sulk or be sad for a while, but really not for too long. You will move on, meet someone better, and be a better person for having gone through this. Good luck!
October 13th, 2009 at 12:08 am
nothing hurts more than your first love leaving you. I say this cause mine left me and it felt like my whole world just fell apart and hurts like hell not going to lie about that. She told you she wants to be free which usually mean she has someone else she met and is attracted to him or two she really wants to enjoy her uni life. But in all I think its done between you and her ( sad truth by the way you said it seems she turned her back on you) BUT if you really feel like there's something there and you know she still likes you, then I say go defend your love man. Other than that man time heals and another girl wouldn't hurt either ;]
October 15th, 2009 at 12:06 am
yea it sounds like shes met someone else and im so sorry
im sorry that this has happend because i know the feeling and it sucks
the fact is that ur going to feel this pain for a while and even when u start to feel beter and u think ur over her something will bring back the pain
what i suggest is going out of the house, catch up with friends, do things that make u happy and give u a sort of release
as hard as it is u need to focus on positives in ur life and do things that make u happy,
with time u feel better and u will meet someone new
good luck
October 17th, 2009 at 8:13 am
well,i'm not an expert on relations but i was through almost the same situation.we dated and everything was fine until he went away.at first couple of weeks he was calling me all the time but then suddenly he started telling me that it is hard to be in such a relationship while we are far away.it was hard for me because we didn't have a problem and i asked him many times what was wrong but he never answered.then i found out that he was seeing other girls it was depressing for me because i really cared about him but i could do nothing to make him mine again.so i stopped calling him.but the worst part was he called me back when he and his girl broke up.it was what i wanted but i told him that didn't want him anymore.it is so sad to see that you're just an alternative.from that moment i promised to move on and i am doing it.i still love him but in a healthy relationship there is gotta be two hearts.don't try to win her maybe she has already made up her mind about you.yes it is hard but time will heal the pain,one morning you will wake up and see that you are not thinking of her anymore.good luck and don't forget nobody is inalienable.
p.s. i told my life story sorry but i hope it helps.
October 20th, 2009 at 6:24 am
Seriously, from personal experiance, leave her to do her thing for a bit. I know this kills you but you dont want to end up in the same situation as me. If she truely loves you she will come back mate. What you can do in the meantime is hang out with friends you really care about and meet new people. They will help take your mind off things. Best of luck honey